I can feel my lungs collapsing in on me I am freaking out. I'm 50 years old, flat broke after the divorce and everything is collapsing in on me right now. it feels like it's just not going to get better. like I had my chance and I blew it and that was it. all the jobs are disappearing or getting overseas, I feel like this is it like this is the end of the career and I'm never getting hired again I don't even fu--ing know anymore. maybe it's just time for me to go now anyways, what do I have to look forward except waiting to die in the street
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Everything will be ok in the end. This was a job and another one will come.
Take care of YOU, mentally, physically. Do things that make you happy: listen to music, take a walk, little things make a big difference.
File for unemployment, write the positives down on paper, like someone said earlier. Best of luck. This will pass.
I'm around 20 years older than you and I know that feeling VERY well!! Hyperventilating panic attacks in the morning then feeling better as the day goes on. Talk about mood swings!
If we knew how long we were going to live would make it SO much easier to plan for things regarding money, you know? And the last several applications I filled out all ask for our birthdates. Why? I see that and ask why even bother.
Just don't give up and remember to breathe.
@a3 you must be a robot drained out from psyche and working on demand 24/7 because you are paid, ohhh great. It’s just a job… read carefully again what you have written.
@aa I've been trying my darndest, talked my way into an AI role for a few months before I got laid off... I'm trying to see the positive
You had a job at Oracle which shows (despite what some will tell you here) that you are talented and have skills that are needed. Maybe not by Oracle anymore but certainly by someone else. Yea it might take a few months, but there is a position out there for you. Might you make the same as Oracle, perhaps not - but maybe the work is more interesting and rewarding. In the end a job is nothing more than paycheck, all these people that invest their lives in a career miss out on actually living. Be sure to apply for unemployment or disability in whatever state you live - that's there for exactly your situation. You got this!
LE gets richer, while we are stepped on like a bug.
My friend. Please go out, do something which you like. For money, to start with you can do something like driving Uber. Keep on trying for jobs and you will be there. Focus on positives in life.
Go online and look for job opportunities for disabled individuals.
Go to a church or synagogue or both, public library, call your City Hall and talk to someone that might be able to point you in a direction where someone can help you. Remember you don’t have to do this alone.
What state do you live?
I feel for you and where you are mentally. You need to practice gratitude immediately if you want to survive this without sending your self into a psychotic episode. Make a list of every GOOD thing in your life. Big and small. So many people are struggling. It could always be worse. You have to actively practice living in gratitude and acceptance. Peace and love.
There was a time in life where I was where you are: freshly divorced and financially cleaned out, job market tanking, disability to deal with, etc. You can grind through this. You’ll adjust to divorced life as time passes - life won’t ever be the same, but it can be good (even better). 50 is not too old to refresh your skill set - figure out what’s in demand and get after it. The trick is to stop looking backward and start working towards whatever is next.
@a4 I need money. I'm disabled I can't really do much else, I need money that's what this panic attack is about
And this too shall pass! I think we all get it ... corporate America su-ks particularly if you are 50+ - it's just a job and not worth being stressed all the time. I hope you can cut your expenses and settle down and enjoy the one life you have. Peace!
dude relax, drink or smoke or check yo mental state. IT'S JUST A JOB. Career folk like us just inflate the value of a job as if it's your actual identity, but it's not. Look at all the cr-p jobs people around you do every day for a living. You had a good one, maybe you will again, maybe it ends, maybe it continues, but in the end it's just a means to pay the bills and you can adjust just like all those who have made less their whole lives. See that side.
I wonder what was the LLM prompt