..depression is setting in. Thoughts are going to worst case scenerios. Can't help to think everything that I have worked for all these years is in danger.
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@pf not really. Putting on a happy face for the holidays though, but after that I dont know. Can't help but think I'm just a burden to my family at this point in life.
Signed
The OP
op, ap, folks - feeling tad bit better? How are you doing?
@ap ANYONE who "trash talks" others, NO matter the circumstances, is NOT worth even a FIRST thought. Karma ONLY naps, she NEVER sleeps nor passes away. Concentrate on self care and taking help wherever you can. Someone mentioned "Employee Assistance" counseling . NO shame in using the resources. YOU paid for them by your years of service. YOU are NEVER alone.
Here's something I came across earlier posted on the site that I found helpful.
https://www.thelayoff.com/t/1ka6yqhnz?source=follow&n=1
God bless you!
Hang in there and remember that stuff and things don’t matter. Our families/relationships, food & shelter are all we really need.
@ap i am a person who works for the company over 25 years and I was spared from this round of riffs. I want you to know the our hearts are hurting too. I haven't slept a wink thinking about my peers , peers i consider friends/ family and whats next for them. I am so sorry this happened to you and i pray that you all will find peace
@ap you are not alone. Reach out to a friend, or assistance program, make/renew/re-issue your library card first thing tomorrow. There are anonymous numbers that you can text, don't have to call if you prefer not to. Offer to volunteer for them.
@ap There are always going to be nasty people in this world that will kick others when they are down. Says more about them than you and karma is a bi--h. Do not let this company/job define who you are. Take some time to grieve the loss, pick yourself up and move on. The severance and unemployment will hold you over for a while. There are jobs out there. Yes, they might be hard to find, and you may have to move in a different career direction to accomplish your goals. Take advantage of the career counseling offered to you as part of your package. If you find your depression is getting the better of you, please reach out to the employee assistance program for help. You are not alone. You can do this and I'm sending you positive vibes.
Remember those Sunday evenings we dreaded Monday work? Behind us. Those co-workers we would avoid? Well, we do not have to try now. Then what do we do tomorrow? What if we misunderstood the co-workers? Well, how about start applying for next role. Why wait for Monday? Start now. This sudden loss of identity, accepting that a stranger may change our life, it's not going to be easy. Our FTE is to look for our next FTE, may it be corporate, govt. freelance, our choice.
Sundays are tough. Nights are worse. You are not alone.
To the person who thinks people will talk about you - first, probably not. They're just as scared as you, for different reasons. And if they do, well, they are je-ks not worthy of your time or respect. Some really great people got caught in this.
Somehow you have to turn the fear and anger into action. Small steps first. I'd organize my house because that would make me feel better. I'd look into unemployment insurance and figure out what to do. Then I'd get a resume together and start sending it out. Think broadly about what you like to do and what you are good at - not just what you are doing now. And I'd remember you got this job (which wasn't easy), you take those skills and talents wherever you go. Good luck to you.
@ap PLEASE, take the advice of the previous poster. NOTHING is worth taking any drastic measures. I was CRUSHED when I lost my job in the 80's and I am STILL here and VERY happy. Reach out for any assistance you can get. I care.
Most people who left say they ended up happier. Take advantage of the Employee Assistance Plan and get some free sessions with a counselor…there is no shame in asking for help. Also take advantage if the career counseling/tech training that the company is offering during the transition time. This is a shock, but you’re gonna be okay.
@OP me too. I am depressed and it is getting worst by the day. I have been crying and scared of my life. People always say, oh you dont have kids so you should be ok. No, it is never ok. I dont have a spouse to comfort me at this time. My parents and siblings already passed away. I am alone in this life. I dont have a husband who has a job and provide the health insurance. And people who remain in the company will start gossiping and will start thinking you are stupid and a bad worker. They already started talking trash about people who were let go.
A couple more stages of grief to go. You’ll be alright.
This could be a blessing in disguise.
Those that stay have survival guilt. Those that went are depressed. WHat's important is that we still have Run With Hans and David Beckham partnership
@OP I was RIF'd 10 years ago after 35 years. You will survive. I know your emotions will vasilatt from humiliation to anger to despair to ...... I still have hatred for the directors that had no compassion. I chose to start all over and have done so much over the last ten years and grown as a person. You will need to likely adjust what is important in your life and come to grips that change is going to happen. It is overwhelming right now, however, I can honestly say that I am a much happier person now than when I worked 60 hours a week for a company that couldn't care less about me.
Hang in there, it will get better.
Stay strong and apply for unemployment asap. Good luck!
You may now have to do more work, now for less pay, and make decisions that now have implications to your career longevity going forward, but once you accept that, you're flying high.
contact the former-employee assistance program
Also, don’t forget you can contact the employee assistance program if you want someone to talk to
Hang in there and stay strong. Don’t let this sh-t show of a company get to you. Focus on what you can control. Update your résumé and start sending in your applications. Lean on your network and support system. Go outside for a walk and get some fresh air and eat healthy. No job is worth sacrificing your physical or mental health.