Thread regarding Wells Fargo & Co. layoffs

How do you stop caring?

I care…about customers and how it really is to work with us. I care about team members (yeah I said it) and feel everyone who has been here since 2016 has been through he-l and back. I care about doing good work that matters.

But caring just makes it so hard to work here everyday. Our executives just don’t care about the same things as I do. I’m not even sure they have consciences.

So I kinda need the money from this job…how do I stop caring so that the days are easier? Seems like a lot of you folks on here have found a way there. What’s the secret?

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Post ID: @OP+1mSsIUYd

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Don’t spend one more minute caring about this shi&hole. They care nothing about you and will ax your in a geartbeat. Give yourself a pat on the back and move on. Don’t waste another second of your life being shi$ on!

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Post ID: @1fxc+1mSsIUYd

It's fixable, but not with these Hudson Yards hacks running the show.

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Post ID: @1quj+1mSsIUYd

Thanks for weighing in. I guess my struggle is that after more than two decades here which have had many ups and downs and where I have never “drunk the kool-aid” (I have always been painfully aware that I’m a number and an expense, not a valued human being), I still (still!) can see how things could be so much better. I’ve climbed pretty far up the ladder and from outward appearances have achieved “success”, but all that has gotten me in a clearer view of the bigger picture…and it’s even worse than I always thought it was. My hints of hope and optimism are fading fast. I just don’t think things will get better.

So I will try to funnel my caring into some other place. I will do what I need to do around here to get by. I will also ramp up my search for another employer and other streams of income. I’m not prepared to sacrifice my mental/physical health for this place. As soon as I can get out and still have money for my family, I will.

Too much of my precious time has been wasted trying to fix this place. It’s not fixable.

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Post ID: @1ize+1mSsIUYd

Roaming this site after you got fired is an interesting way to spend time but OP, you just have to do your job and look out for number one. Caring about customers is fine but team members is a whole other ordeal.

Caring about team members usually leads to taking on their work. Simon expressed to me that he is overwhelmed by always having to do this task. I’m a little less busy this week so I offer to help him. Now that task has forever become yours until you find a su---r to take it.

If you want to survive at this company you really have to look out for yourself. Ask what you want from your role and figure out the effort that will take. Climbing the corporate ladder is one of if not the most overrated things. The higher you go the more you’re selling your life to a corporation that will axe you even after 30 years of service

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Post ID: @1zox+1mSsIUYd

You stop caring when you realize you are just a number to be thrown out like trash. I cared about the company and defended them for years with all their corruption and abuse. Then I was axed after 30 years. Instead of a retirement party I got a pink slip and was told to get out in an hour. So it was not too hard to stop caring about the worst employer ever.

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Post ID: @1mto+1mSsIUYd

agree with @hrw+1mSsIUYd Also look for groups to join in your career area -- everything from technical to hiking clubs. Get a dog (or cat). There is life after Wells Fargo... so you should start preparing for it now.

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Post ID: @1eek+1mSsIUYd

It's common for people to succumb to substance abuse when they lose their job.

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Post ID: @1gcn+1mSsIUYd

They can get employees caring and the great performance that goes with it, or they can get RTO. Not both.

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Post ID: @1uwm+1mSsIUYd

Care only about yourself. It is like Titanic. You are on a sinking ship. They will be sure to leave you as Charlie and the minions row away on the only lifeboat and watch you sink.

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Post ID: @1hgj+1mSsIUYd

This place could care less about you. Find another company. Charlie and his sh&t show only cares about themselves. You are a fly on the wall to be squashed

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Post ID: @1qop+1mSsIUYd

You are working at the wrong company for “caring” to matter.

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Post ID: @1nbz+1mSsIUYd

It’s not an overnight thing. You stop caring over time. You see that no good deed goes unpunished and gradually start doing what it takes to make the punishment stop. It’s self preservation.

You stop beating your head against the wall when it hurts too much to continue.

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Post ID: @1xrc+1mSsIUYd

Care is a subjective thing. If you are a traditionally high value employee that is now emotionally overwhelmed, be more objective about what is/not important in your work day. If your role allows, don't volunteer or look for new work to do. Do fewer things and execute to the highest degree you are capable of.

The bank doesn't value high output workers, it doesn't see your struggle, your sacrifice. Take as much control as you can back. Do not enable anyone to slack or act like their admin (reminders or call attention to things unprompted).

Some roles are limited in choices on how to craft their workflow. Where possible, pivot care towards what you can do well with limited stress. Stop extending olive branches or enabling low performers to thrive.

Hard to give a one size fits all approach, yet at the same time we all need to show up every day and actively manage our work. Passivity is the enemy. Channel your energy towards concentrating work into fewer hours and use the free time to be a better person (exercise, learn something new, etc).

Collecting a paycheck is much better when you choose to focus on not being miserable or having a bad attitude at work. There are ways to be above it w/o coming across as co--y.

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Post ID: @zsh+1mSsIUYd

It's not that I stopped caring, it's that now I only care enough to only get it done. I have no reason to go above and beyond or excel because, when I have, it has never been rewarded.

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Post ID: @hrw+1mSsIUYd

do just what you wrote! continue to do your work with conscience integrity and receive the bi-weekly pay.

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Post ID: @eus+1mSsIUYd

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