I would’ve left Oracle in a heartbeat. The stress is eating me alive. I think I’ve reached the point where all of this is just getting to me way too much.
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@cd Not in 2025 "If you're still employed, it is definitely easier to find a new job than if you are unemployed (always has been like this)" No longer applies in 2025. What it counts: Job experience, attitude, demeanor, energy, a colleague got laid off and it took him 6 months to find a "permanent position" Got notice in June with 2 month severance plus overtime & vacation earned. As soon as he got laid off in June, he started to apply. Same pay if you know how to negotiate. He said he got a LOT of contract offers, but location was an issue for him. Some were offering TONS of cash. It depends on how desperate you are. It takes TIME to find ideal job as long as you invest energy and effort to apply every week and BE persistent AND Follow-up. Some recruiters do not even ask why you are on the market. Post your resume via Monster (going out of business), Dice, Indeed.Simply hired. Look for alternate contact phone. His home phone keeps ringing from recruiters non-stop. Also set up job alerts via LinkedIn, Monster, Indeed/Simply hired. Come up with stories, practice your stories (behavioral interviewing) dress professionally for virtual interviews, list is endless there is Light at the end of the tunnel.
You need to take some personal responsibility and make a plan.
You never want to be in a position where a layoffs is immediately catastrophic.
You can give notice or your employer can make your job vanish with very little
notice.
Having a 6 month emergency fund is the absolute minimum. You need to ensure you have options and breathing space.
@c1 "Nobody beats Father Time!"
Or as the saying goes "Graveyards are full of indispensable people"
Everybody can leave. But it's not always easy: mortgage, bills, kids, family. Requires taking a risk.
If you're still employed, it is definitely easier to find a new job than if you are unemployed (always has been like this).
If you feel you're at the end, start looking. Only you can determine what is the right answer for you (e.g. another job seems easier but may pay less or be in office vs. remote). Everything in life is a trade-off and we all have our own decision tree. Good luck!
You can take consolation in the knowledge that EVERY manager above you will be GONE, eventually and that EVERY board member will need to be replaced!
Nobody beats Father Time!
I found, in the last year or so, Support got more sc--wed up, it was harder to get IT help,
more metrics, and more bugs with little time to work on them properly. I got blamed because i retired a machine and It took forever to send the return shipping box. And the environment had really gone downhill. IF they asked me to go back, I would only do it
if i haven't found a job, which I am searching on now.
@OP It feels more like a vicious 'broken heart' slowly need to let it go sooner or later. Easy to say than done. Remember work to live not the other way around.
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There's nothing you can do to change it, other than be prepared. So why torturing yourself because of something you have no control over?
I went through same thing 4 years ago. It’s a toxic hurtful experience. The work wasn’t hard. The people, esp mgmt, horrible. Weak minded people who do anything to get their way.