Lately, it’s like I’m being pushed out without anyone saying it outright. Whenever I ask questions about a process, I get shut down and told to just figure it out. I’m not given the same time to learn new tasks as others, and when I flagged a coworker for mistreatment, it felt like I was the one in the wrong. Meanwhile, that coworker got promoted the same month after treating me poorly. I put in the work, my performance is strong, but recognition and support seem non-existent. Even small gestures others get, like acknowledgment on anniversaries, completely skip me. I honestly don’t know who to trust. Anyone else dealing with something similar?
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@22n This way of “firing” people is horrible and unethical. So much for treating fellow employees with respect and dignity. It allows 3M leaders to bully and harass employees if it leads to employees who they do not like leaving. It is time to remind the toxic leadership at 3M that if an employee is not meeting expectations there are processes in place to address this problem. 3M must also enforce its Code of Conduct against leadership and others who harass, bully, belittle, etc. employees to make them quit.
That behavior is known as “quiet firing.”
PBS just did a piece about this approach by employers.
@1cc you are describing my experience. I was subjected to passive aggressive hateful treatment by the "management team" in my division. It started when the division got a new vice president who hated me for a reason unknown to me. His minions attacked me to earn brownie points with the boss. In such situation the only option is the leave. No one will help you, not HR, not your manager (even if he/she is sympathetic), not your co-workers (they don't want to become targets themselves). Many good people left 3M in recent years because of this shameful behaviour by some of the "leaders".
3M’s senior management consists of many passive aggressive, toxic and apathetic people. In other companies a leader would coach an employee who they feel is not doing a good job. At 3M the leaders harass, belittle, etc. employees to make them quit or to set the employee up for a bad review. There are many leaders who will do the same if they simply do not like an employee or feel professionally threatened by an employee. I have been at 3M a long time but I have seen this behavior increase significantly since 2019. I feel it will only get worse.
What do you want to know?
Whether you are in management or not the treatment you described is writing on the wall. I have heard many good managers have been treated this way as well. Good luck with external job search.
If you’re Portfolio I (likely), then it will be difficult to find work within 3M to preserve your pension benefits. You can try, but I believe there’s more incentive to push you out then.
I know, it happened to me. My best two internal leads quickly dried up when they found out how much experience I had. (The outplacement firm had helped me write my resume so it only went back 15 years with dates.) Neither one of those divisions is still part of 3M so it didn’t matter anyway. Sometimes, it is better to focus your job search efforts externally.
This is what happens when they are getting ready to make a move/ layoff. Getting assigned to bad projects or getting edged out for good projects is just the beginning. The poster that said to come in and do the bare minimum was correct because they have already decided to move on. Sorry to be harsh but it’s true. This is how they do it. Get your resume together but keep it quiet, do not tell anyone anything about your plans - act like everything is status quo, and start looking now for other roles in the company that you can apply for. Once the decide to layoff you will NOT be allowed to look in other areas of the company or given only 30 days to find something so start now. Also put out feelers outside the company now so you have a Plan B. Good Luck!!
That last comment seemed mean. You don't know what's been happening. But if the writing is on the wall, read it quickly and move on. The OP needs to be looking elsewhere not trying to fix this.
"Why am I not getting special treatment in this company where everyone now does the jobs of 3 people? Why are no coworkers holding my hand and teaching me how to do my job, during their ample free time? Also I complain to HR about my coworkers."
- Dont talk to anyone
- Update your resume, contact your contacts
- Show up everyday, do the bare minimum
- Leave without notice
You will never get even a basic level of respect. No matter how much you simp.
You may reflect on how you landed in that job. Did you apply for it and get hired or did you get "placed" there due to circumstances like a reorg? If you feel unwanted then you are probably right. I would guess you did not get hired specifically for that job because your boss would need you to achieve the group's goals. If your boss and coworkers don't see a fit with your skill or personality then find yourself a new job. It won't get better trying to win folks over while they see you complaining or putting forth a facade of trying to fit in. BTW - come employee review time you would be the perfect candidate to receive that 1 or 2 rating. . . Good Luck!
Yes, ive been there. It isn't you, or your perception either. Captain obvious here, but your best bet is to start applying elsewhere and find somewhere you're more appreciated.