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Friends

I worked in Silicon Valley for years and years. What I found was that most people I worked with, who I thought of as friends, were actually not.

After I left work, I found that the people who I thought were my friends, were actually just people who had lunch with you to keep you as a contact. As soon as you are no longer in the workforce you are no longer worth their time.

Perhaps some of that is my own fault. Perhaps I should have spent more time cultivating friendships with different people... maybe not tech people? Not sure.

I suspect that outside of Silicon Valley things are a bit different. I have relatives that worked in tech and lived in other cities and did not seem to have the obsession with money and the next thing that would bring them more money. They were more focused on family.

The only thing that matters is the family around me. Their safety is pretty much the most important thing. There is nothing else that matters more.

It's very important for me to ensure their safety.


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Post ID: @OP+1kcfz4yhf

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@OP Very sorry to share that my experience was just like yours although I'm a clinician in healthcare. My heart was broken when those I considered family (or at least really good friends) suddenly didn't have time to pick up the phone, to return a text or have coffee together.

The "crab bucket" analogy just came to mind. I have you to thank for that. Wow, wow, wow. It's a gift I wouldn't have rec'd without your honest vulnerability.

Don't give up on people - despite their behavior, we humans are hardwired to need each other. Loneliness is detrimentally toxic however connection and forgiveness are its mirror-image opposites, serving as healing balms for the Soul. Hang in there and don't ever give up - we all need your light!

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Post ID: @pb+1kcfz4yhf

@d8 I don't know that it's so much that everyone is out for themselves, it's just when you're not in a position to be in the company of or talking with someone on a daily basis like when at work or school, people do lose touch. Most all of my friends from work were connected via social media. I still have friends from work in India, all over Europe and all over the Americas. A few others (at least here in the US) we talk on the phone or via text.

It IS sad, but that's life.

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Post ID: @gm+1kcfz4yhf

yup, I hit this. my friend that worked at another big chemical company for 30+ years hit
the same thing. as said about this above: No friends there, just people aggregated in one group to cooperate for some period of time on the often-hard-to-understand-senseless-task.

hard fact to learn.

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Post ID: @dd+1kcfz4yhf

People that you hang around with every day at work and consider friends will quickly drift away when you're no longer at the company. It's not the same work world as it was 50 years ago - people are out for themselves these days and you are just a tool or device for them to get what they want next.

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Post ID: @d8+1kcfz4yhf

As with most things in life - there are grades, from Diamonds to steaks!

Some friends are Grade A - but don't expect to find those at work. If you are very lucky, maybe one 'B''s, but most of the time you will only encounter 'C''s ad 'D''s.

Think of them all as friends ... life is nicer that way, but establish proper expectations.

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Post ID: @d0+1kcfz4yhf

You should only propratize your family and kids. This is a life rule.

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Post ID: @b8+1kcfz4yhf

It doesn't matter in corporate. world. Doesn't matter with Silicon valley or Oracle.

Infact, Oracle is much better for human relationships , work life balance compared to other companies I have been. Even though I hate Oracle for less growth and hikes.

Oracle has lots of channels for building talents in Tech, games/enrichments/wellness for employees where you can collaborate yourself and find friends. Oracle has good volunteering service too.

I have seen people who left Oracle and rejoined it through friends. People staying here for long time for good work-life balance, etc.

By friends, I don't understand what you mean ? do you always want someone to help you when you are in need without taking any efforts ? or be with you in your path / constant efforts ?

Its upto you to build your circle. Where you build is upto you. Some people try to build in office, some people use office just for work and search their family and friends outside. Where ever you are, try to provide the best of you. Automatically you will get more friends.

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Post ID: @aw+1kcfz4yhf

You are not from around these parts….

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Post ID: @ar+1kcfz4yhf

No friends there, just people aggregated in one group to cooperate for some period of time on the often-hard-to-understand-senseless-task.

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Post ID: @aq+1kcfz4yhf

lol. friends. it's not a grade school, there are no friends.

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