I’ll write out a full response pushing back on a bad decision or unfair comment, then sit there staring at it. Pushing back sounds reasonable in my head, but I also know full well it's an easy way to get labeled as difficult by management. So I delete it and stay quiet, not because I agree, but because protecting my reputation feels safer than being right. It's exhausting having to police myself like that.
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The feeling is very mutual. I haven't read or heard a single word from an executive in a couple years now. I couldn't care less what evil lies the corporate monsters are peddling this week.
Your calculus is correct and I know it feels bad to do, but its the best thing for you and others. Retaliation here is as severe as it is common. You have been where you are long enough and burnt enough time to know what's got a chance and what doesn't. If there's not a chance to improve the situation let it go. CS and his ilk broke the culture - not you. You are adapting to the toxic environment they create. Chose your battles - and they are battles - between people who can and people who dont. Push back when you can improve something for yourself and others.
Check your verb… not chose , choose
Embracing candor is at your own peril and the biggest gaslight of all.
Invoke Scharf’s “candor” and let it rip.
Or, choose to be an invertebrate corporate troglodyte.
Powerful.
Welcome to adulthood. Unless you're self employed youll spend most, if not all, of your working years keeping your opinions to yourself because nobody who works above you gives a cr-p what you think about anything. Sorry if this is upsetting to you but I'd suggest getting over it.
Hate to break it to you, but this is how corporate life has been since the beginning of time. You aren’t a victim.
In Japan they have Anger Rooms where you can vent your anger.