It’s 535am where I am. I woke up in a good mood and a friend asked me about a work get together that is happening in Feb. I’m somewhat newer at the company. The gathering would require staying with co-workers in a winter cabin for 2-3 days. Having been burned, mistreated, abused, dumped on and sabotaged for so many years at Oracle, social situations for lengthy time, esp if alcohol is involved, it gives me anxiety. All of this comes from so many years at oracle around people I couldn’t trust or people who were just flat out terrible people to work with. Liars, frauds, fake. Do we have these at every company? Probably…..but man….it’s sad what a place like Oracle does to people for the rest of their lives. I realize more and more as I get older that it was the worst experience of my life and one I regret every day. I am so thankful I will never ever have to go back.
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OP means they are in a new company now, but their Oracle experience still haunts them regardless.
Wait until when someone has to be "laid off" from the cabin.
Offsite in a Winter cabin? It doesn’t sound like you work at Oracle at all. That’s bizarre
I agree with you, it’s actually something really sad in working in O. I spent there a few years and had a bit different experience from yours - I could not say that people were liars, frauds, fake, it was something different I experienced with my co-workers and manager. They were all very narrow-minded people, with constant fear in their head, always ready to do more whenever they were asked although having their own tasks backlog full. Always available through Slack notification 24/7 not because they were on call, they just felt the duty to react with the fast feedback. No raises, no perspectives, not appreciations, not even manager’s „thank you”. And the whole team was just a group of sad neurotic people with no interests and hobby at all, apart of work, they had no subjects to talk in the small talks. I never didn't let myself be mentally drawn into this state, so I felt there really strange and some time ago I changed the job and came back to normal functioning world.
Get a life LOL
People need to stop treating their job like it's a religion. Develop and keep the mindset that you are separate from your job. You're there to earn, gain experience, maybe develop some mutually beneficial relationships and build a future best you can. None of that requires you surrender your soul to the place. Times are tough and stress is high - no doubt. When you look at history you'll see times have been way tougher and way worse than they are now. Our forebearers made it through and even thrived. Not all, but most did. You're as product of that so keep that line going and work through this.
Good luck and try and keep some perspective and yourself out of trouble.....Don't give in.
I'm so sorry you went through all that! Maybe I'm just lucky, I was blessed to have been able to work with some fabulous people and had awesome managers.
Hope things get better for you and you have a chance to heal.
Sounds like the plot from a horror movie! Imagine if you were to get snowed in with them!