I recently picked up bowling and joined a league. But my manager loses it if I miss his calls after work hours. I’m not on call, not getting paid, but somehow still “expected to help” because I’m the team's youngest. He hinted I should only bowl on weekends if I care about my performance and my career growth. I am not going to glue myself on teams 24/7 for a single digit raise. Why is it never enough no matter how much we give? Do I really have to give up my hobbies just to keep my job here? Could be worse, right? I would lose it if he made me work on weekends, that’s for certain…
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Ok clearly you have narasist boss which 90% of us have but being the youngest here is how to handle them.
You must go all in. He says I need you to work late you say I'm a go.
I need you to work on sat and sun you all g-n ho .
Right now this person has you as a target. Knows it really bothers you and the narcissist loves it and wants to see how far they can go till you break ..then wants to see how far they can go till they break you again.
If you are all enthusiastic to follow thier lead and it doesn't bother you there will get BOARD and move onto their next target.
Learned this second job guy was the manager in WHQ he would jump around to see who he could break brought his subordinate to tears once. I saw the pattern as soon as I was all g-n ho all in after a month less and less I got Thier attention. The person that this kept happening to was the guy who railed against it.
Now while you doing this start interviewing some place else.
Similar here dude. I got into cycling and was chilling out on weekends and the manager suddenly asked me to join the meet out of nowhere. I joined through the phone, which he got offended I didn't turn on video (I was literally riding alongside cars, but answered everything verbally). The fker later hawked at me for not turning on video, so I told him I was biking. He then starts rambling about how he thinks cyclists break laws and are either homeless or lazy spoiled b-ms, and how he is just an inch away from running them off of the road. Then he threatened me to never be seen with my bike or I will be written off as slacking. He sounded sincere too. JFC
@a4 😂😂😂😂 another manager spotted!
@a3 At this stage in OPs career you should always be learning. Having said that @OP should set expectations on their availability. Nothing wrong with those conversations. It is actually a good thing that their PL is turning to them to solve problems. Make your PL successful and get what you want out of it. Looks like your supervisor sees potential in you
@a2 No, this is stupid. This whole idea of "im getting paid so I need to accept slavery" is insane
If you don't want calls when you're not at work, go work at the bowling alley.
This is the difference between having a job and a career.
Have your own dignity
Just snap on that sh-t and move on in your life.