I've been reluctant to share my story but I just don't care anymore. So here goes...
I got the okay to relocate for my partner's job to a non-hub city and I could be remote. We started the process of selling our house i.e. under contract for sale only for TIAA/HR to change their view on remote work. We couldn't back out of the sale without exposing ourselves to a massive liability (forced performance on sale). My manager and their manager tried numerous times for an exception on their own with our group's HR business leader only to be told that my L3 leader would need to make an exception. Unfortunately, my L3 leader told me "you're not worth the political capital necessary to make this happen. Sorry". I tried to find other solutions, the most easy and logical would be officing out of a wealth management office in the new city that had an empty desk. With the support of my manager, and the new city wealth mgmt regional manager, we attempted to make it happen only to be told by HR that only hub-locations were allowed for corporate employees, which is interesting given certain EC members are clearly NOT wealth mgmt employees but yet office out of WM offices in Cali and Arizona...
I was told I would need to commute to a hub city at my own expense, the nearest being +230 miles away. I asked if I could utilize any corporate discounts for lodging/air fare and was told that since this wasn't "official" business travel I couldn't use any TIAA negotiated rates, even if paying for it out of pocket. Long story short, I'm forced to commute weekly to a hub city, spending between $900-1200/week to get my 3 swipes or face disciplinary action (assume firing but who knows?).
I'm being forced to pay to work at TIAA and I haven't received a raise in the past few performance cycles. Instead of going into the office to collab and connect, I commute to be lonely and sit on Zooms with colleagues across the country as the office I commute to is ALWAYS empty. Adding insult to injury, one of the "faces of TIAA" that was plastered all over the intranet, is a remote worker that lives 50 miles away from "my" corporate hub.
And before some boomer/sycophant comes in and calls bullsh-t - there's more to the story - there isn't. It's literally that simple (and I have a paper trail to prove it). And to answer why I do it? Because like others have said, most people just can't quit on a whim. Finding a job is tough, let alone in the currently tight labor market. I'm fortunate that my team and colleagues that know of my situation are extremely supportive of my unique situation so I guess I have that going for me BUT TIAA as a whole, especially HR, can eat a bag of di-ks.