I work so much to make up for the people who left that I'm now worried that my wife is going to divorce me for neglecting her. I'm not exaggerating, we had a huge fight yesterday over me once again working most of the weekend. I made a promise to her in the end but to keep it I'll have to leave some things unfinished. This time I plan to stick to it. I had a wake-up call and I will not risk my marriage over work. Go ahead and fire me. The way things are now, worrying about being unemployed would be an improvement for my mental state.
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Work your 40 hours (or whatever is your standard week), then stop.
You can only do what you can do. Kick stuff back up the chain and don’t feel guilty about deadlines / work not being done for lack of people. That’s above your pay grade.
I agree with all posters that you should stick to your working hours and say 'fu-k you DXC'. But also please note that your marriage seems to be toxic in any case. If she wants to divorce you because you are working much and putting the bread on the table, then maybe she was not the marriage material anyways...
Leave it. I found myself in a similar situation in this company some time ago. If you don't put your limits, nobody in that company will do so. In fact, they will always expect more from you.
And thanks god if you don't have crazy management staff pushing and pressing you to finish everything on time, because in that case, it can be even worse, because you are almost to wreck your marriage, and nobody in the company (neither your nearer managers) will recognize your effort, and even blame you for not closing your stuff on time.
Once in there, I started working one weekend because of an "exceptional and critical" situation. When I realized, it was already 3 years working almost every weekend, and my projects were all "exceptional and critical", and the time passes without a single pay rise in my account. Anyways, what became "exceptional and critical" was my personal life. Not my marriage because I'm single, but my family and friends started noticing it, and they saw me less and less time. I had always something to do at work, no matter the moment, no matter why. Always something to do at work.
Because this company, or better said, some of their management layers, is like a huge insatiable monster. It's never enough. And remember: there is absolutely no problem that another Excel sheet (that you have to fill at night) can't solve.
Leave it. Do it now. Look for something new and say bye with the minimum notice period you can give.
That’s a big red flag when work is leading to big arguments. It probably means this has been going on for a while and has likely been mentioned before and you have ignored it. You need to stop now. Talk to a specialist recruiter tomorrow. Get your CV over to them and make positives moves. You need your family life to be secure. No job is worth wrecking your marriage for and certainly not DXC.
The job market is starting to swing back in the employer’s court now, having enjoyed 18w months of a post pandemic surge in high IT roles,, employers are now faced with harsh realities of rising energy, slow consumer spend, rising inflation, as we are and that layoffs and closures are now on the agenda.
I take it you haven't been improving your skills on the new learning portal then!
I'm sorry, but I do my 37.5 hours per week and sign off at the end of each day, regardless of the project status.
If a project is overdue or a client complains, or my manager has a dig, then so be it. No reason to go the extra mile when the company don't reward us for it. Don't let the pressure get to you and think you need to work all weekend to get something done. There is more to life than that, the world isn't going to stop spinning because of it. If we lose the client, then it's all we deserve and hopefully will teach senior management a lesson, their own doing because of all the cuts.
I have the same problem.
It's your fault if you work every weekend, you can say NO! No pay increase if you work overtime, I would say fu-k DXC.
Waiting for the guy who routinely pops up in situations like these to advise about watching DXC well being videos to improve your mental health... or the guy who talks about culture week !! Where are you chaps?
On a serious note, the weekend that you mentioned you worked, would have been better utilized updating your CV and linkedin profile. Get to it now. The market is slowing down... it has done so considerably compared to where it was 6 months ago... so the more you delay, the longer it will take to land an offer... we are approaching Christmas anyway when all decision making will go on hold for more than a month !!
In the end your health and your family are more important than any job. Do whatever you need to do the maintain your health and family.
Remember they keep saying they care about your health. Nobody will take care of your health and well being but you.
Just quit.
Resign.
Leave.
Shouty won't reward you for wrecking your marriage. He's going to lay you off sooner or later anyway. You're not going to get a raise. You're not going to get a bonus. You're just going to get more work. Eventually you'll get laid off.
Why are you still there?
Just leave and go work somewhere else. Tens of thousands have done so already, and we're all better off for it. DXC is a morally bankrupt cesspit of an employer. Get out and improve your life.