Got NSIed, selected PIP, started looking for a new job.
I constantly feel anxious, stressful, couldn't sleep well and wake up early. This has even affected how I do the interviews. I often find it difficult to speak calmly during the interviews.
What can I do to get relaxed? Any suggestions, or any recommendation to a mental health doctor? Thanks!
Transcendental Meditation is scientifically proven to work. It so simple and it’s life changing. It’s a little pricey, it worth it.
Here's a tip: Just think about what Brian Laundrie's going through right now, everyone is looking for him and that must be a lot more stressful that the PIPoff in my opinion. Poor Brian.
First off everyone needs to start lessening to Dave Ramsey and stop putting them self’s into debt. Once you are financially secure all the small stuff in life like working goes away.
Remember you are in control not them. You will have many jobs over your life not just one. Be secure with yourself.
Now for your situation. Chill out smoke a J and go with the flow. A job does not define you.
Get a prescription for xanax
I was in the exact same situation as you and feeling just absolutely depressed and miserable since accepting the PIP — you feel like everyone else is handling it, but somehow why can’t you?! I just want to tell you that you’re absolutely not alone, and don’t feel guilty to do what is right for your mental health.
As for interviews, I can only offer my two cents — I tried to think of the accomplishments and projects I’ve worked on, and despite the toxic culture we currently have, we have touched some impactful projects in some way, even if it’s a small contribution in a mega project. Your interviewer will likely be very impressed by the kind of projects you contributed to, and that’s something to be proud of! Not everyone in the world gets to work on international assets with millions of investments in just absurd locations on the earth. Be proud of yourself for having a part in it, and I hope that gives you some confidence in these interviews. Best of luck to you, keep chasing what you want, and this is just the beginning of what you know you need to do to make yourself happier! I know you can do it!
Remember, no matter how rotten it feels, rest assured, most of those that received their no package layoff PIP were because they were the wrong age (mostly), color or gender. Technical skills mean little these days compared to how deep you can bury your nose in the backside of your supervisor and your ability to hold handrails going up the stairs.
Hold your head high and don’t let them see that it’s affected you in any way. That, and the better job you’ll end up with, are your revenge.
Hey, I got that too. I take a prescription (a pill once a day) and everything is good. You don’t have to live with it. Seriously. Plus, all the other good advice on this thread and you should be good to go.
@zcf+1d1FdCtx Truely sad and heart breaking. If you share this with the mgmt. they and other Kool aid drinkers will keep singing WeAreExxonMobil and #winning. Employees seem to have become extremely disposable and the least important assets for the company.
Have you ever thought to see a doctor and get medicine which would help you relax?
In BTC one of my teammate got PIP and it affected me a lot how can they destroy someone career like its nothing..
It’s very important to be aware that the entire ranking process is a sham, and the current oversized, endless PIP-offs are a sui-idal move from the company, who loses directly and indirectly the best people this way.
Last year it was more difficult, especially for people with 20+ ye, who were suddenly told that their entire career was a fraud and they are worthless. But now we all know, including the oil industry at large, what an absurd and rotten process this is. Look at it as a turn for the better, a forced but positive exit from a toxic workplace which has no more professional satisfaction to offer. Some might point that this empty shell called EM still provides a salary, but if you’re depressed by being NSI clearly you care about more than the financial side.
I used affirmations on notecards to change my mentality. You start to believe the messages you tell yourself.
Yes, we all know what it feels like because you were picked. Just remember that it is not because you were a bad worker. You were picked because they had to pick someone. I have seen it for the last 20 years. They will pip a good worker and let a lazy non productive worker stay. There are some who get away with mu---r here and never get piped. These are protected and the management likes them. So it is not a true reflection on your performance here at exxon. Remember another companies supposed trash is another's treasure. The process was and is never fair. You will find a company that appreciates your talents. There are more important things to worry about like your health and family. Good luck.
Sounds exactly like what I went through during the first few weeks or so. My mind was clouded and I felt so down and miserable. I applied for 20 jobs the day I got hit which I didn’t not expect by the way. Like a posted here said, I started exercising more, eating well, hanging out with friends more. I started feeling much better after I got a few calls for job interviews with companies I was excited to work at, felt even better as offers started rolling in. Being in the office while on PIP strips you of every ounce of dignity in your body but I made it plan that was best for me and my family and chose to stick to it. Ensured my mental health was good, chose PIP, applied for jobs until I got the one I want.
I wish you well, stay strong!
Everyone I talk to that still works here feels like that regardless of rank. Your doing the right thing in getting out. Hang tough. Bright side is one day the managers will be on the news crying or worse, they will be out in working positions and fail miserably.
You're probably nervous because you know you're unprepared.
I had a Dr tell me once to have a few beers before whatever the event was.
Start going on practice interviews. Apply for less than ideal jobs you don't really want and go take some batting practice before you get to the interviews for jobs you really want.
Practice makes perfect.
Hey and maybe you might find one of those practice interviews are something you're really interested in.
You may have to force yourself at first, but what helped me was a new routine. I would go to the gym/ runs in the morning, favorite diner for breakfast, and then go to the library and update my resume and apply for jobs. Don’t just stay home all day.