I'm tired of endless speculation, I'm tired of being stressed 24/7, and I'm tired of being stuck in limbo and unable to move forward and determine what my future will be like. And yes, I know I can quit, but only a fool would walk away from a possible severance package this close to the end line. Or at least I hope that we are close to the end line.
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why didnt you accept the new position without resigning? If the deal went through you would have gotten severance. If it didn't, you could have always quit VMw, and been in the same situation you are today.
2 reasons:
- In a situation where the deal wouldn't close by 26th November, I didn't want to risk management not allowing me to offset my leaves and asking me to stay for the 30-day notice period. I needed to start the ball rolling for my resignation process to ensure I could commit to my new employer's requested start date.
- I wanted to leave as soon as possible, just couldn't take it anymore. I am in a customer-facing position and there's no "vacation" for me, but the other teams supporting us have mostly switched off. Simple issues that were typically fixed within 24 hours are taking days or even weeks to resolve. It's a vicious cycle where I want to remain professional for external customers, but internal issues are so significant that simple processes are getting stuck as other teams no longer function. I just can't.
Belittling or lecturing people who have expressed anxiety or stress about not knowing what their future is because it is in the hands of people who refuse to share information about the acquisition deal or explain why they cannot, is naive, and macho BS. Mental health is a big issue. Many people suffer in silence because the trolls and know-it-alls will beat them down if they speak up. They infer you are weak or a whinger. The emotional mind is subconscious. Our insecurities and fears are based on our experiences, memories, and primal need for safety and survival. It’s real and thousands of people at VMware are experiencing these feelings. We lose good humans everyday due to bullying by bad humans. So for those out there experiencing anxiety or fear - I understand how you feel. It’s OK, it doesn’t make you inferior in anyway. Talk to people you trust about how you are feeling. Don’t bottle it up. For the trolls and bullies- karma baby, karma
Everyone has different needs and triggers for mental health best thing would be to shut this nonsense website down and allow people to relax
"My god, it’s not that bad."
This is true, we could all be offered jobs at Broadcom Software and forced to embrace their unique blend of mediocrity and spreadsheet management.
We could be diagnosed with cancer, or forced to attend an All-Hands meeting with Hock Tan to learn why SOON HR is our new Wellness plan for all employees who couldn't care less about the deal outcome. Should I continue, or do you get my point here? WTF!
My god, it’s not that bad. You are still getting paid to do a job so do your job. If you are so stressed by the situation, just quit. If you want to hang in in case the deal actually closes and want severance, then su-k it up.
The assumption is that you are "this close to the end line ". Not sure what you mean by end line. Close of the deal? Call off the deal? The possibilities are endless.
With China they are not able to even talk about what is going on. Most probably this limbo will go on for a few months. Severance should be least of your worries.
I too am looking forward to it being over. I don't like to dwell in negativity or not know what my future will look like in two months. I have really loved working at VMware and in 99% of cases have nothing but great things to say about the people here. This company treats its employees incredibly well. The work has been interesting and being able to work remotely for a large tech company has been wonderful. Even under this cloud of uncertainty, I don't want to leave. But we all need to get on with whatever the show will be. It's been great to have some down time, but this can't go on for much longer. Many people are heading for the exits and I fear that we won't have enough people to crank up the machine again if this falls through. The uncertainty is having a real effect on morale, mental health and productivity.
@sfi - why didnt you accept the new position without resigning? If the deal went through you would have gotten severance. If it didn't, you could have always quit VMw, and been in the same situation you are today.
Many are leaving for this very reason. Recruiters know what is happening. Good for you!
Maybe learn a new skill or learn to play music or whatever...but do something. You have one life, don't let it go to waste. What will you do?
I guess I will start making better locks. Little birdy told me there is going to be demand for “better locks” SOON.
I'm one of the fools you mentioned, as I just tendered my resignation. I intended to time it after receiving my severance, but that didn't happen. I didn't want to keep my new employer waiting, especially considering the higher remuneration they offered. It's almost as if my new employer incentivized me to leave promptly with a better pay. Surprisingly, I'm happy about quitting on my own accord, it has brought me peace of mind and control over my life, reducing my anxiety. I'm now ready to embrace new challenges at my new workplace.
You Sir! are a no fool, you got a better paying one, sure severance would have been nice, but you got something better for a better future. All the best.
I'm one of the fools you mentioned, as I just tendered my resignation. I intended to time it after receiving my severance, but that didn't happen. I didn't want to keep my new employer waiting, especially considering the higher remuneration they offered. It's almost as if my new employer incentivized me to leave promptly with a better pay. Surprisingly, I'm happy about quitting on my own accord, it has brought me peace of mind and control over my life, reducing my anxiety. I'm now ready to embrace new challenges at my new workplace.
Don't laugh .... but I I have decided to take a training course and become a locksmith. Not forever, but just something to supplement my income in case I have to leave work or choose to leave work. I wanted to learn a new skill that I could earn good money from and vowed never to let the currents events affect me the way they have. I choose to take control and do what's best for me and my family. Maybe do a certification, take up a sport or new hobby. Maybe learn a new skill or learn to play music or whatever...but do something. You have one life, don't let it go to waste. What will you do?
If you are taking the severance option, just treat this time as a go slow period. Learn something new, interview etc... Do things outside of work, not everything revolves around vmware.
You still being paid atm, so nothing has changed. Don't become work, dont let a company define you or your health.
Waiting for severance under these conditions is putting a price on one’s mental health. Everyone has a different price point and different tolerance for stress thus for some it’s worth waiting and for others it’s not. Either way everyone feeling stressed should do the math to calculate if waiting is worth it.