Need some suggestions on this. My manager talks about my peers and even folks above my grade with me (not in a positive way). I can't really push him back as i think he would then talk about me with others. How do I report this anonymously without impacting my work?
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OK, thanks for the further explanation, OP -- that does sound pretty toxic, especially if he is making embellishments to the tales he's telling. Report away then!
OP here... it's not that my manager is sharing things with me because we now have a good trusting relationship. I know for a fact that he talks about the rest of us with the rest of us because he spoke about C with A and B, he spoke about B with A and C and so on... in our 1:1s. And also twists some stories with minor changes, so when A,B and C talk to each other - all 3 are shocked why they were told the same story in different ways.
I’ve never had a manager that didn’t do this.
So basically you’re saying you have built trust with your manager and now you want to see him punished. My advice: work on professional boundaries with your manager and enrich the relationship rather than trashing it.
You can go to HR and report the issue. I did that once and they fired my boss
Make sure it's an issue worth reporting. I had the most toxic, gaslighting, manipulative, passive aggressive boss at Schwab. I would have loved to have a boss whose only fault was a little bit of gossip. If the gossip was true, and relevant to the job at hand (not personal, private info) I would just use it as a source of information. Consider if this boss really needs to be reported, or if there's another less intense ways to handle the situation.
You can go to HR and report the issue. I did that once and they fired my boss
Sack up and speak to him in a professional manner about your concern.
@cub+1vvrtO1f - Apparently, you need to learn spelling. You're missing an 'm' there, bud.
Schwab is a company where you can work with mostly brilliant wonderful people but a bad manager can ruin your time and the only way out from under is to leave that team. I've seen a manager get written up, "coached" and generally humbled by their own stupid arrogance. But it still hasn't led to their removal. The worst leaders are like the fabric of the company- woven in and never dealt with. The fact that they aren't that great is their job security because not everyone can be at the top off the org
It's always in your best interest to ensure you have some mobility in case you get stuck with one.
Focus on you. You are not responsible for his attitude or actions. Show him respect but focus on how your attitude and actions will affect your career. Good Luck you have the right mindset.
The ombudsman will not do anything in this situation.
They are talking about OP to the others as well.
Suggest covertly recording each engagement, but the company’s take will be that your manager has wide latitude. If they want to talk about coffee cake in a one on one so be it.
You’ve got a sm--k talker manager. STMs are not a problem if they don’t get wet after midnight. But you can’t trust them and should seek another manager.
expose the team or lob so people are aware of it such people
Is he a bad boss otherwise? Are the comments he's making about the other folks true based on your experience or not? My inclination is to think that he's just letting off some steam, although it's not professional to gossip, but sounds like he likes you, and is maybe using his stories about the others on the team to let you know that he observes the team environment, and also to give you context about other things he is talking about. Maybe he's worried that you will leave, and is trying to let you know that he understands the struggles you might be having working with some of these other parties. If you like him otherwise, why not just listen passively and just make sure that as for yourself, the gossip goes no further? Maybe try to steer the conversation in another direction quickly when he starts gossiping? I just feel like if he is a good boss otherwise, there's no need to throw him under the bus for this.
Start getting a little distance if you can or even work on moving to a new team -network until you're ready to apply because he will see. But if you're getting a sense that your manager is toxic or not elevating the team, you need to take steps so you don't get stuck. Takes years to get out from a terrible manager here. Sometimes they'll hang themselves with their own behavior but ultimately with Schwab being the way it is, you have to make your own escape from bad bosses.
You need to learn this word. Obudsman.