You can’t beat a narcissistic boss if you want to continue working for him. However, you can learn to be a better player in his games:
◾Be clear about what the rules are.
◾Define your limits and boundaries
◾Never assume anything
◾Put everything in writing and get everything from the boss in writing
◾If you want to initiate something new, make them think it’s their idea
◾Offer sincere flattery- frequently
◾If you don’t agree with something and want it changed, you need to show them that it will have negative consequences for them — not that it is something wrong or unethical — but that it will actually be bad for them
◾Never give criticism, even if it is constructive (see below under Never Criticize a Narcissist). For example, if a narcissistic boss has what you perceive as a really lame suggestion, don’t tell him you think it’s a dumb idea or correct him with a better idea. Sometimes if you repeat the idea back to him-using a neutral tone with no sarcasm- he will tell you it’s a bad idea. “Oh, okay (agree with him first).You want me to take the blueprint down the street to The Copy Store and wait for a copy to be made.” (You are the General Manager and have several other meetings you need to go to and there are several assistants in the office).
OR SUE FOR SEXUAL HARRASEMENT IF YOUR A WOMAN-ASK FOR MILLIONS! THAT WILL GET HIM FIRED!