Thread regarding VMware layoffs

A good time to practice stoicism and stop worrying

I know many people are grappling with high levels of anxiety right now. However, in the grand scheme of things, none of this truly matters. If you can adopt a bird's-eye view, you'll likely agree. Those mired in the minutiae, however, will focus solely on their immediate problems.

Drawing wisdom from philosophers like Epictetus and Marcus Aurelius, the question arises: if you can't control something, why worry about it? And if you can control it, why are you worried?

Life is a series of changes—some good, some bad. There was a time early in my career when I was young, single, and thoroughly enjoying my job as an IT support technician. I had good friends; we'd go to lunch every day and have a gas. Once I earned my MCSE certification, I felt on top of the world. But in retrospect, did any of that truly matter? Maybe.

If I get laid off, I plan to launch the business idea I've been contemplating for years. If I end up working for Broadcom, maybe I'll have the opportunity to pursue it as a side hustle. Or perhaps I won't have time for any of it. I've come to accept that what will be, will be.

So, let me leave you with a story and a simple piece of advice: stop worrying.

Once upon a time there was a Chinese farmer whose horse ran away. That evening, all of his neighbors came around to commiserate. They said, “We are so sorry to hear your horse has run away. This is most unfortunate.” The farmer said, “Maybe.”

The next day the horse came back bringing seven wild horses with it, and in the evening everybody came back and said, “Oh, isn’t that lucky. What a great turn of events. You now have eight horses!” The farmer again said, “Maybe.”

The following day his son tried to break one of the horses, and while riding it, he was thrown and broke his leg. The neighbors then said, “Oh dear, that’s too bad,” and the farmer responded, “Maybe.”

The next day the conscription officers came around to conscript people into the army, and they rejected his son because he had a broken leg. Again all the neighbors came around and said, “Isn’t that great!” Again, he said, “Maybe.”

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To the person who thinks OP is worried because OP is on this site, I disagree. I’ve posted a few things with the same intent. There are so many people doing shocking things right now. People in leadership leading very poorly. Acting like the ship is going down with no glimmer of opportunity or improvement. It’s interesting because the saying of determining a captains skill is in rough seas (not when it’s smooth sailing) is so very true.

I absolutely think my team will be ok in the long run. I think there will be more money and opportunity at BC. I have talked to existing employees live on the phone who say the same thing and that the culture is better than their previous job.

I made the choice to stay as I could have left a year and a half ago. I’m going to see this through, however that may end up, instead of instilling a ridiculous level of negativity and panic in myself and my fellow colleagues.

Who wants to be around people like that??? Work or personal life doesn’t matter. Id rather be the one saying it’s challenging right now, but if we stick together and do our best, things will work out <3

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Post ID: @1mth+1oUQdUta

Don’t stop worrying. The only one worrying about you is you.

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Post ID: @1hot+1oUQdUta

The fact that you are on this site, means one thing, you are “worried”.

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Post ID: @1hng+1oUQdUta

Woah. The OP posted a story directly from a Calm app session :). Great one

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Post ID: @1wrg+1oUQdUta

Great post. I wish there were more like this. Also, mindfulness and meditation. Bringing oneself back to the present. The Calm app is amazing for this.

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Post ID: @1kum+1oUQdUta

Hehe, some good points. Also someone’s been watching YouTube! ;-)

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Post ID: @jpe+1oUQdUta

The Stoics definitely had a lot of life figured out. That approach helps with mental health for sure. When I've asked modern day people in the mental health field (therapists, psychs, etc) I'm shocked that most of them don't even know about Stoicism. The approach of acceptance and managed control seems like it's been fully relearned as mental health practice.

It's always amazing how much better thinkers we had 1000s of years ago, and when society and politics in some areas appreciated philosophy and wisdom.

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Post ID: @dyl+1oUQdUta

Don't lose sleep, but prepare.

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Post ID: @qah+1oUQdUta

Easier to say than do, but absolutely the right attitude. I've been laid off once in a very similar situation, while uncomfortable, looking back, it was a great push to move into something else in my career and eventually landed me at VMware. Yes, it stinks when it happens, but, in this type of coming mass culling, it's not about you. You're a number on a spreadsheet. Your performance, your value, very little of that even factors into the discussion, it's "Your budget has to go from X to Y, make it happen".

If I'm caught in this round, which, like everyone at VMware today, I stand a chance of being, I'm going to take the severance, relax for a few weeks and recharge, and then figure out the next thing. Yes, it'll be scary, no question; when you're uncomfortable you grow, keep that in mind.

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