It is true what they say, you find out who your friends are when something like this happens. People I have known for years and thought we were friends, I have not heard from. Maybe the obligatory that su-ks, you'll be fine call or text when it happens. But otherwise, not a peep from any of my close teammates and colleagues. Surprisingly, people who barely know me have been the most helpful with connecting me to new opportunities and networking. Just keep that in mind when you are breaking your neck to help your team, that unfortunetly they won't miss you when you are gone. They will just be happy it wasn't them.
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how many of your coworkers did you reach out to after they were let go? Out of sight, out of mind.
You are a number and once you get wfr it is only a few weeks after you are forgoten. This is the truth your friends are not at work they are you family and true friends. Maybe one or two people will stay in touch maybe make them a priority. F the rest who cares!!
Environment at Dell is 'Learned Helplessness'
"Psychological phenomenon in which repeated exposure to inescapable and uncontrollable trauma causes a person to give up and become apathetic...This was observed and written about by Holocaust survivors who were also psychiatrists, most notably Viktor Frankl and Bruno Bettelheim."
I disagree with this. You need to make effort. A bunch of us coworkers have Been laid off recently and we keep in touch. It’s all the effort you make.
Wow, the comments are harsh. This person didn’t say they are lonely and their only friends were their coworkers, they just said their coworkers su-ked and they didn’t expect that. Jeeze.
It’s a hard lesson to learn but one worth learning. Just remember, those left at Dell have it worse. They are either there because nobody else will hire them or they are afraid of having to compete in the job market. The latter is fair enough as it’s tough out there… especially if you have only ever had Dell on your CV.
Wish you the best in whatever you do next.
Oh not in Support. You just cannot be friends with your teammates because once someone makes a mistake, and mistakes are made all the time, you must fully snitch (report) on what happened and who f’ed up so nope, not in my team. Plus we have a few backstabbers that smile to your face but false report you behind your back.
I trust no one!
I met my best friend at Dell 25 years ago. That said, I can count on one hand the number of work friendships that have lasted once I left a company. As others have said, work friendships are situational. They're like your high school friends. You mostly have nothing in common but you're friends due to proximity.
I was WFR'd at my last company and had multiple co-workers reach out offering help but that only lasted a few months. Remember - it's just a job. Your life shouldn't be your work.
Co-workers are one of the most artificial relationships there are. So don't think they are your friends.
That said, I've made life long relationships with co-workers at other companies.
I think the caliber of a co-worker is also dictated by the integrity of the company they work for so I wouldn't have high expectations from Dell.
Your work colleagues aren’t your friends.
In very exceptional circumstances, they possibly could be, but it’s not the norm.
I’m sorry you were let go, they will be thankful it’s not them. Dell ain’t what it was, enjoy your freedom and I wish you success post Dell.
I left last week and enjoying being away from the place.
Lol...as The Offspring so eloquently put it, "You've got to keep them separated. Work life vs personal life. I can count one one hand the number of coworkers that I have fraternized with outside of work over the last 20 yrs. This is a job. We coexist out of necessity. You must be a lonely person to impose those expectations upon coworkers.