Being laid off would actually feel like a blessing. The paycheck is the only thing that’s kept me from leaving, but personal costs are piling up—fatigue, chronic stress, no personal life, dissatisfaction, you name it. It’s just not worth it. We’re cursed by chasing the money. Once you realize the cost is too high, it’s often already too late.
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Please please look after yourself. I've seen mental breakdowns and su----es from work, you need to put yourself first, the price is too high.
It is true that bp offers a generous leave plan. But, let me be clear here. If you go on leave for mental health (for example), what happens to your project? How does that ACTUALLY factor into your final rating? I'll disclose that I had to have emergency surgery one year (about 5 years before I left), I felt even then I had to work because the bp model was to place you into one of the buckets. I was working even when I was recovering in the hospital and later on when I was recovering at work. True, no one told me that I should be working, but somehow you "know" you need to. The career resulted in a generous pay, but it was at the cost of my family life. My work/life balance with bp was nonexistent.
Why do so many retirees frequent a site about company culture prospective layoffs. Move on guys. Enjoy your pension. Let it go.
In reflection, I can tell you that your life apart from this company will be much better. It will su-k for a little bit as you seek a new job, but have faith. I'm now retired (nearly 64), and I will tell you that I'm no longer anxious to see announcements about another layoff. But, to those I don't know who are going through it, I fully extend my sympathy. In full disclosure, when I went through it, I have to give BP some kudos. I was given about two months to transition away from them. My group held a retirement gathering for me and I was able to say goodbye to those folks. My manager gave me all the time I needed to make this transition. I've heard stories about being escorted off site, but that never happened to me. Best wishes to everyone!
Consider taking advantage of leave policies to give yourself a break for a month or three . BP still has very generous leave policies . Get a medical diagnosis of anxiety and/or depression and request short term leave. It might give you the time and perspective you need to make the right decision for yourself .
@OP+1jhzhez7h+1 you will have a lot of skills and experience to offer another company. Start making your plans now. No employment or employer should get you to the state you are in. You owe a company your hard work, you don't owe them your life. Also, start thinking of hobbies/activities you would like to pursue if you were in a more congenial workplace. Perhaps you would have more time to spend with family and friends, or even make new friends. If you are feeling really low, perhaps see a doctor. Whatever course of action you take, I wish you well for the future.
Go read these two posts
- ) How Many Feel Vindicated?
- ) Consider Your Options. It's Not About the $
You aren't alone
@OP+1jhzhez7h do not be discouraged. There are so many great places out there to work and the leaders are way better. Put a plan together complete your exit strategy. You can do this. So many have and they are thriving elsewhere.
You do not want to be here when corporate raiders take BP/BPX over.