I am getting pipped for wrong reasons.
I am going to accept severance today. meeting with HR
I hate talking to my manager, it causes me anxiety and I have some interviews tomorrow.
I am new to the industry and don’t have much details.
Asking because I heard that people can get fired for the wrong reasons in a company and those reasons are mentioned in the background check.
I don’t know what those reasons are. - what i meant is
Company fires you for illegal activities or maybe some other reasons. What can be those other reasons? Can they fire you for not working when you are on PIP and deciding to take severance?
Can someone please guide me ?
I am new to the industry so lack a lot of this knowledge.
My 1:1 with manager is after my meeting with HR.
Also he had arranged too many 1:1 with me and was always very disrespectful towards me, caused me major anxiety and self esteem issues. I lost the confidence. I hate talking to him.
My POV-
I suffered from major anxiety and self esteem issue.
When I received the email for areas of improvements, I asked my manager clearly if I am in focus, he always declined, said this email is just for tracking my progress.
I have designed and implemented 2 major projects this year and 1 of them had few issues after deployment (still not used by customers) (it’s normal according to my seniors)
Also when I was on-call 2nd time, I wasn’t very attentive towards some sev 3 issues until my manager pointed them. He used these 2 examples in the email with multiple other assumptions without any solid examples. When I asked for examples, he said those are my reviews and he can’t share details. For few of the points, he also mentioned that he doesn’t remember the examples now and that’s what he felt. I gave him examples on how those points are invalid even in email and on call but he still used those in the PIP email later.
He clarified saying if I will be on focus, I will know it. This all happened on a call and he never replied to my email where I asked if I am on dev plan or focus.
I thought if he is helping me grow in the career and I naively acknowledged my mistakes and even shared how I will improve those. I didn’t mention this to my mentor as I was ashamed and embarrassed to share these details (specifically the one he provided without examples) and thought it’s very childish at that time.
My manager backstabbed me, was very firm that I wasn’t in focus, I completed the points he mentioned for the focus area but he still used those to put me in PIP. Demeaned me and disrespected me with the way he spoke to me and with his behaviour and words.
I was in focus for a really short time and I did not get sufficient time to create more Data points. Though I fixed the production issue of 1 of my earlier project and also some other points that he mentioned.
My every action was getting nitpicked. My CRs were having way too many comments by him.
I was scared to even talk because he used to pick 1 word from the sentence and keep telling me how wrong I am.
I was tired of defending myself or explaining what I wanted to say after a point, though my team members or mentor always used to understand what I am saying.
He was doing this to few other teammates as well.
My mentor and 1 more senior of the team is aware about this and they feel this is unfair. I told them when I got the PIP email. They felt I was being targeted and talked to skip about manager as well, gave his bad feedback . (They didn’t talk about me to skip)
Most of the people in the team are unhappy about him, we feel he overly criticise everyone even in team meetings. We had this discussion over coffee way before I faced this.
His title is still SDE and he is transitioning to be a manager. He lacks managerial experience and is unsupportive, unappreciative.
He is an extremely talented engineer though (lacks develop the best skill).
He started managing our team this year and have very few people under him ( I am the newest).
I accept that I definitely made some mistakes but I don’t think I deserve to be piped.
I also agree that I have become a lot sensitive,
This year wasn’t good to me , personally and professionally. Many other things happened as well but this one affected me the most. Sometimes it’s just too much and you can’t handle. I also faced this for the first time and never knew my confidence will get affected this bad. When Anxiety and depression hit, even writing a comment or talking to someone seem difficult.
I took a break, used my leaves and just did what I love to do. I am much better now. I believe in god and I feel god has a better plan for me. Still, sometimes it is difficult to handle myself and the anxiety and that’s when I wrote the post.
I am still very indecisive and that’s why taking opinions on blind and they have been very helpful as well.
Anyway,
Thank you my blind friends for the advice. I am finally in much better place and getting over the anxiety.
Thank you for taking your time, reading and replying to my post, encouraging me and giving me strength when I am down, means a lot to me.
I feel I am not alone in this and that’s why i shared all this.
Update - HR mentioned she needs team’s approval and need to discuss with the legal teams about severance and will contact me soon.
Is anyone aware about the process?
Thank you to most of you for spending so much time reading the post and also for reading the comments where I explained the situation.
Thank you for your kind words and for encouraging.
Means a lot.