I’m not sure when it happened, but I recently realized that little by little, I have completely lost my work/life balance. I’m constantly working, including evenings, weekends, and even holidays. Yes, I make good money but my quality of life has plummeted. The worst part is that I don’t know how to pull back now without being called a slacker. I seem to have dug myself into a hall. Any suggestions?
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There is a simple solution. It’s on floor 32.
It's not just underperformers receiving top ratings, it is all of the D&I cult too. The more boxes you check, the higher the rating. Promotions work the same way.
It's time to leave. You will work harder and longer and they will give underperformers the highest rating. I've seen it happen for years. They will string you along while you make other successful. It's not worth it. There are better places w more fair and honest practices.
NM has always been this way. The few people who have a strong work ethic carry the slackers and there are no negative consequences for the slackers. And, it's hard to change this once your MO is being a high performer.
Is this long care sh-t team?
I'd echo the talk with your manager thing, assuming there's solid trust there... If not, the do less without it being apparent route is probably better.
Have an honest discussion with your manager about it. I immensely respect that you're a hard worker, but you need some growth in work/time management and understanding how to stay in what is ultimately a marathon. Right now you're headed to a path of burnout.
Tell your manager you care deeply about your work and your career, but need advice and help in how to manage your workflow in a way that still allows you to be a high performer, but ultimately doesn't burn you out. Raise the flag early and make them part of the problem solving process.
Just start doing less like I do. Pretty soon, that’ll become your new baseline.